2022 Workshops

Unfortunately things happen and as such all workshops are subject to change without advance notice.

• Basic Scene Building Blocks (rope 102) (Lubegirl)
• Bastinado: The Exquisite Pain (Sir Tee, little kitsune)
• Beating Suspension Stereotypes: Suspension for Larger Individuals (Lubegirl)
• Call Me Daddy: Exploring the Daddy Domme (Wiley Wolfe)
• Catholicism Kink (Danarama)
• Chokes for Sex and Submission (Master WrathDaddy)
• Cock & Ball Torture (Sara Blaze)
• Consent Praxis for Kinksters (Asha Lerae)
• Different Strokes: Advanced & Creative Caning (Danarama)
• Dollification for New Dolls, Makers & Owners (Danarama)
• Dominant, Not Domineering (Master WrathDaddy)
• Double Handed Matched Pair Singletails (Jonn Ireland)
• Egos and Vulnerability in Power Exchange Dynamics (Sir Tee, little kitsune)
• Enabling Ability: Playing with Disabled Partners (Ferris Oxide)
• Exploring Gender and Sexuality Through Animal Role Play (Wiley Wolfe)
• Fat Liberation in Kink (Mx. Pucks A'Plenty)
• Feeling Sparks: Electroplay and Sensual Sadism (Ferris Oxide)
• Female Domination (Sara Blaze)
• First Impressions: Playing at Events (Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano)
• Flippity Flip (TheDude, BetwixtBlushes)
• Flogging for Pain and Pleasure (River Dark)
• Fuck Aesthetics (Rope 101) (TheDude, BetwixtBlushes)
• Fucking with Gender (Carter Brûlée)
• Humiliation from Top to bottom (River Dark, Andie)
• Imagery & Design with Needles (The Carnie)
• Intentional Sadism in Rope (TheDude, BetwixtBlushes)
• Introducing Your Monster to Your Lover (Wintersong Tashlin)
• It Goes Both Ways - Serving and Being Served in a Fulfilling Way (Carter Brûlée)
• It Was Knife Knowing You! (Robin Beatch (Redrobin))
• Joining The Raptor Army: Building Tengu Variations (Lubegirl)
• Leather Folklore (Pony Tromper, Lark)
• Ordeals - Crafting Sacred Trauma (Wintersong Tashlin)
• Ouch Needles Hurt (The Carnie)
• Pain Processing for Nerds (Robin Beatch (Redrobin))
• Plural Dating 201 (Dr. Liz Powell)
• Pony Play 101 - Putting the Horse Before the Cart (Pony Tromper, Lark)
• Precipice: Edge Play (Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano)
• Put Your Practice Where Your Mouth Is: The Art of Effective Communication (Ferris Oxide)
• Racism Defined: Allies thru Z (Mx. Pucks A'Plenty)
• Relationships on Purpose (Dr. Liz Powell)
• Safety & How to Engage in Play Piercing (The Carnie)
• Second Hand Happy: Practical Compersion Skills (Dr. Liz Powell)
• Sensual Whipping in the Dungeon (Jonn Ireland)
• Squirting: Let's Get Wet! (Robin Beatch (Redrobin))
• Strangulation & Asphyxiation: A Study in Breath Control (River Dark)
• The Pony/Handler Dynamic (Pony Tromper, Lark)
• The Sadistic Art of 8 Limbs (Master WrathDaddy)
• This Sucks, Why am I Turned on?! Suffering Fetish (Carter Brûlée)
• Transcending Shame (Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti)
• Tying & Flying: Beginning Self-Suspension (2 hours) (Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano)
• Urethral Insertion Play (Wintersong Tashlin)
• We Do Not Live Single-Issue Lives (Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti)
• You Need A Spanking: A Deep Dive Into Domestic Discipline (Wiley Wolfe)

Basic Scene Building Blocks (rope 102)

Lubegirl

You’ve learned a single and a double column, now what do you do with it? From sadistic fun to practical application for scene usage (such as impact,) come learn some ways to utilize what you know to build a fun and satisfying scene on the floor.

Keywords

Bondage, Rope, equipment,

Bastinado: The Exquisite Pain

Sir Tee, little kitsune

This class will explore bastinado, the fine art of caning the soles of feet. Known for the ability to create an extensive range of sensations depending on the strike, intention, duration, and implement choice, bastinado has the ability to deliver a wide range of sensations and pain levels.
This class will review the history of bastinado, safety practices, implement choices, and how to create a personalized, beautiful scene and experience. You will develop an understanding of bastinado techniques such as how and where to strike, and how to play on the fact that the longer the scene, the more sensitive the feet become. Bastinado strikes do not require force to deliver pain, making it a nuanced approach to impact play.

Keywords

Bastinado, caning, feet.

Beating Suspension Stereotypes: Suspension for Larger Individuals

Lubegirl

Do you constantly find yourself tying folks taller than you? Is gravity getting you down when you're trying to lift someone into the air? Are you a bottom whose been told that because you're (insert excuse here) you can't be suspended? Come learn some ways to adapt your suspension to make it easier on you and your bottom and help dispel the idea that suspension is not for everyone.

Keywords

Suspension, body positivity, rope, bondage, shibari, kinbaku

Call Me Daddy: Exploring the Daddy Domme

Wiley Wolfe

What makes a Daddy? Why and how might we incorporate Daddies into our kink? What does it mean for a woman or gender expansive person to claim the title? Join Primal Daddy Wiley Wolfe for an in-depth look at the masculine side of these nurturing Dominants, from soft-hearted caregivers to the leather Daddies of your dirtiest dreams. Fair notice: All are welcome, but this class is queer focused!
*Trigger Warning: Patriarchal figures and structures including but not limited to; absent fathers, queer loss, and a brief comment on (role play) incest.*

Keywords

daddy, lgbtqia, gender, sexuality, power exchange, role play

Catholicism Kink

Danarama

Explore the arousing, dark, taboo, and even funny sides of kinky, religious role play drawn from numerous Roman Catholic rituals and motifs. From twisting the basic trappings of priest, altar boy, nun, and catholic school girl fetish and roles, to reenacting extreme rituals of high protocol like the Stations of the Cross, confession, the Inquisition, excommunication, and even exorcism, you'll learn how to play with an edge that is so fucked up, you'll have one hell of a scene. A devout recovering Catholic himself, Danarama shares the secrets and opportunities that lurk within the church.

Keywords

Religious play, D/s, fetish

Chokes for Sex and Submission

Master WrathDaddy

Chokes for Sex and Submission - Learn the anatomy of blood chokes and how to (relatively) safely implement several basic and advanced choke holds during rough play, sex, or as part of a scene.

Keywords

Breath-play, Edge-play.

Cock & Ball Torture

Sara Blaze

As a Pro Domme, Sara’s specialty is cock and ball torture. Give her a boot lace and a handful of clips, and her bottom is in for a world of hurt. Sara will cover basic safety and health concerns, then dive into skills that will be sure to get your bottom’s attention!

A “not for the faint of heart” powerpoint presentation will give devious minds all kinds of naughty ideas, and will also demonstrate how these skills can be modified for use on trans men.

Keywords

n/a

Consent Praxis for Kinksters

Asha Lerae

Praxis is the combination of theory and physical practice that results in a unique way of learning, changing, reflecting, and being. This workshop introduces the foundations of consent theory, offers some practices tailored for kinksters, and leaves space for your own questions about how to build a consent praxis.

Keywords

consent, autonomy, capacity, informed consent, risk, boundaries, praxis, sex, CNC, negotiation

Different Strokes: Advanced & Creative Caning

Danarama

There's more to caning than meets the ass. Danarama shares dozens of innovative techniques for using canes in dynamic scenes, from playful and artistic to excruciating. Highlights include:

1. Selecting canes and strokes for different folks
2. Caning as warm-up, sensation sustaining, and aftercare
3. Advanced tricks
4. Florentine caning
5. Malaysian Caning Protocol
6. Incorporation of other toys

Keywords

Impact, sadomasochism

Dollification for New Dolls, Makers & Owners

Danarama

Dollification is the process of evolving yourself--or someone else--into a "living doll" using consensual modification of mental/behavioral and physical/clothing traits. Learn the secrets of this dynamic fetish and how to become a living doll, or a Doll Maker or Owner. Discover the types of human dollies including rag doll, posable doll, and even a sexual fuckbot. Learn great dolly makeup tips and how to acquire attire. Then see how a dolly and Doll Owner can play.

1. What is dollification and why do people love it?
2. How to become a dolly (makeup and clothing)
3. Finding your dolly/Owner style
4. Playing as a dolly or Owner
5. Resources for dollification

Keywords

Fetish, latex, dolly, M/s, D/s, Sissification, objectification

Dominant, Not Domineering

Master WrathDaddy

Dominant Not Domineering: How to be an effective leader, not a bullying asshole.
How do you inspire voluntary submission and obedience? Whether you identify as a Dom, Domme, Master, Mistress, Handler, Trainer, Daddy, or Mommy, effective, inspirational leadership is a skill that takes time and effort to learn and cultivate. We will explore some of the techniques and philosophies I have acquired through experience and study, mistakes I have made, and lessons I have learned in my journey that have helped me become a better leader.

Keywords

M/s, D/s, Power Exchange

Double Handed Matched Pair Singletails

Jonn Ireland

This class takes your whip skills to a new level. The class is for whipsters with some whip experience. Learn to use two whips, one in each hand. Participants will learn and practice various techniques including “9 and 3,” cross cracking forehand and backhand, Florentine, and others. We will have lots of practice in class, and by the end of class you will be well on your way. Several pairs of matched snake whips will be available to borrow during the workshop. If participants have their own pair of matched whips, bring them. Students will also learn positions to use when no cross is available and the use of whips with bondage. Whips can be used to brush the skin, or cracks off, then on the skin.

Keywords

Impact, whips

Egos and Vulnerability in Power Exchange Dynamics

Sir Tee, little kitsune

This class will explore the role, function, and impact of egos and vulnerability for both sides of the slash within a power exchange dynamic. By understanding and recognizing the role of ego, we will be able to define and control how our ego impacts ourselves, our dynamics, and our persons.
While vulnerability is often recognized as a vital component for establishing trust in intimate relationships, in power exchange dynamics, expressing vulnerability can be misunderstood or perceived as a weakness. This class will build an understanding of how ego and vulnerability can effectively deepen the dynamic in powerful ways. Regardless of the side of the slash, purposefully allowing oneself to express vulnerability within a dynamic can reveal a strength of character, build trust, foster intimacy, and improve self awareness. For Masters, Mistresses, and Dominants, expressing vulnerability can demonstrate a confidence in self and leadership and support the personal growth journey.

Keywords

None Specified

Enabling Ability: Playing with Disabled Partners

Ferris Oxide

When someone sees a disabled person as limited, they aren't thinking about the way that the space and people around them limit a person's capacity to play. As a person who controls a space or the experience of play with another person, you can enable another's ability to play with you or in a space that you run by making a few considerations. Commonly overlooked accessibility limitations within play space include lighting, sound, set up, and physical space. You can help your play partners feel considered and enabled.

Keywords

Disability

Exploring Gender and Sexuality Through Animal Role Play

Wiley Wolfe

Animal role play can be a vehicle for stress relief, structure, and whimsy - and it can also be a powerful form of exploration and validation! In this class, we'll discuss how to harness your inner creature through the lens of gender and sexuality. We'll discuss connecting your inner animal/s to your identity, exploring solo play techniques, centering validation in your scenes and dynamics, approaching negotiation, having psychological awareness, participating as a Handler, and more! Bring your experiences (if you have them) and ideas! My hope is that you'll leave this class inspired to create play that makes everyone feel empowered and seen.

Keywords

pet play, animal role play, lgbtqia, gender, sexuality

Fat Liberation in Kink

Mx. Pucks A'Plenty

There is a BIG difference between Body Positivity and Fat Liberation. Ableism and fatophobia, both internalized and external, lurk under the surface of our scenes and communities. In this workshop, we will discuss Fat Liberation vs Body Positivity, fatophobia, fat sex in porn and media, and accessibility.

Keywords

Kink, Fat, sex, community

Feeling Sparks: Electroplay and Sensual Sadism

Ferris Oxide

Electroplay comes in many different forms and varying ranges in sensation. Electricity can be both sensual and sadistic. This workshop discusses and demonstrates the various forms that electroplay can take, including violet wands, tens units, and stun guns, as well as the relevant safety information necessary to engage in this form of play. This workshop heavily focuses on the use of violet wands. Participants will have the opportunity to try all of the electric toys that are demonstrated.

Keywords

Electricity, Violet Wand, Electroplay, Stun Gun

Female Domination

Sara Blaze

The stereotype of a whip wielding woman dressed entirely in black leather is not only tedious, it’s ultimately a harmful, idealized construct of what a FemDom “should” look like.

Join Sara as she deconstructs what female domination “should” be. Topics covered will include finding your own authentic persona as a female dominant, how to step into your dominance, and how to harness your unique power.

Keywords

Female Dominant, FemDom, Domme, D/s

First Impressions: Playing at Events

Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano

"You never have a second chance to make a first impression." - It's an oft repeated cliche', because it's true! Many crucial "firsts" go into playing at events, especially with occasional or new partners; poise, finding compatible partners, confident & empathetic negotiation, reading your partner during the scene, and more. We're all feeling out of practice when it comes to playing at events; Stefanos & Shay will tap into their decade-plus of scene experience to give tips & tricks to make your play soar! They will include demonstrations focused on meeting people, dynamic bottoming, quick top ideas to have up your sleeve, and utilizing/reading body language. This highly interactive session offers opportunities to assess your negotiation skills, consider your limits, and (optionally) participate in roleplay scenarios.

Keywords

None Specified

Flippity Flip

TheDude, BetwixtBlushes

This is an advanced suspension transition sequence. We’ll back flip, barrel roll, and such. This is not an intermediate sequence. You should have a solid grasp on suspensions, transitions, and managing load lines before entering into this class. The only pattern we will cover is a front loading 3rd rope for the TK and some special considerations for the hip harness in this sequence.

Keywords

Rope, suspension

Flogging for Pain and Pleasure

River Dark

This class has nothing to do with how to flog beautifully or show off with fancy swings. In this class, we will teach you how to hit strong and hard, how to bring someone to tears and beyond using just a flogger, and how to use a flogger to create a journey. If you have never picked up a flogger, then this class is for you. If you just want to learn how to hit harder, this class is also for you. Bring a flogger and someone to hit for the hands on portion of this class. Limited access to my floggers and slave will be available on a last come, first served basis.

Keywords

flogging, flog, beginner

Fuck Aesthetics (Rope 101)

TheDude, BetwixtBlushes

This is a class focused on getting beginners and newbies to appreciate the physicality of rope rather than the photo op.

This is TheDude’s approach to a rope 101. Forget the patterns and single columns. Here we’ll talk about basics in consent, negotiation, safety, and scene building for a bit. The majority of time will be spent working on ways to get people used to moving rope and applying wraps and frictions in ways that can be sexy, intimate, sadistic, and sensual. This class is aimed at those with zero experience, but it is sure to cover a nifty tip or two for even the fairly experienced.

Keywords

Rope, shibari, ischinawa

Fucking with Gender

Carter Brûlée

Let’s be real, gender is a complex and multifaceted construct. There are so many aspects, from gender identity to gender presentation and expression, before we even get into the societal contributions, gender roles, and expectations. This class focuses on the many diverse ways you can play with gender in kink. Whether you are hoping to explore alternative presentations, affirm someone’s identity, embarrass them, or play with darker things like gender dysphoria, this discussion-based class explores the many facets of gender play and discusses negotiation considerations and strategies for fucking with gender in your play.

Keywords

gender, affirmation, humiliation

Humiliation from Top to bottom

River Dark, Andie

Humiliation play - why is it so fucking hot? This workshop looks at the many facets of humiliation and attempts to answer the question, "what is humiliation anyway?" What is the difference between humiliation, degradation, and shaming? If someone does not find it humiliating, is it still humiliation play? Then, once that's all figured out, we will have lots of fun (or not so fun) demos, stories, and ideas to add to your toy bag! With River speaking from the top perspective and Andie from the bottom, we will cover humiliation play from top to bottom!

Keywords

Humiliation, Edge play, CNC

Imagery & Design with Needles

The Carnie

Do you want to use the body as a canvas and not just a pin cushion? Learn how to create your own patterns, and how to execute those patterns on the body. The focus is on maintaining consistency and keeping a safe, clean environment for longer sessions. This class will demonstrate safe practices, techniques, and how to engage in play piercing for those interested in exploring this kind of play.

Keywords

Needles, Blood, Sharps

Intentional Sadism in Rope

TheDude, BetwixtBlushes

This is an introduction to semenawa, or torture rope. This is all about observing your partner and intentionally adding stress in specific ways. It’s about using your partner's feedback, both verbal and non verbal, to tweak your approach and intensity.

This class works great with hardpoints for partials, but can be done on the ground as well.

Keywords

Rope, pain, semenawa

Introducing Your Monster to Your Lover

Wintersong Tashlin

What happens when you or your partner decide to go into the deepest, ickiest personal darkness and bring something out into the light… and the bedroom? This class will focus on the “how, why, and when” of this journey. We will talk about how (and whether) to include some of the darker aspects of yourself in your relationship and play and how to do so in a safe, healthy, and erotic way. The class is equally appropriate for singles or partners. No subject for discussion will be taboo, so participants should be prepared for subjects that may be frightening or disturbing.

Keywords

age play, rape fantasies, violence, edge play, triggers, communication, relationships,

It Goes Both Ways - Serving and Being Served in a Fulfilling Way

Carter Brûlée

Spend enough time in kink circles and you will hear the word service. But what really is service? In this class, Carter discusses the many forms that service can take, as well as strategies for discovering and growing your service skill set. Additionally, Carter discusses strategies for negotiating service dynamics, be they long term or temporary, and considerations for humans providing service to get what they need out of the exchange. This class is designed for both givers and receivers of service, as service is a two-way street, and those receiving service play a large role in the interaction.

Keywords

service, submission, D/s

It Was Knife Knowing You!

Robin Beatch (Redrobin)

Fear, primal energy, blood, and cold, shiny steel. Whether you're intrigued by knives and don't know where to start, or you want to take your knife play to the next level, we'll cover it! After reviewing safety, care, and other basics, we'll demonstrate methods of using your knife to cause fear, various ways of cutting, and how to fuck someone with a knife. Join us for edge play at its sharpest!

Keywords

Blood, knives, edge play

Joining The Raptor Army: Building Tengu Variations

Lubegirl

Looking for a way to restrict your bottom while avoiding the sensitive nerves in their arms? The Tengu is a great structured harness suitable for all body types and adds a unique shape to your ties in the ground and the air. Come learn how to build your bottom into a raptor and walk away with some techniques to build your own raptor shapes! Both natural fiber and synthetics are welcome in this class.

Keywords

Rope, bondage, kinbaku, shibari, suspension, harness

Leather Folklore

Pony Tromper, Lark

Leather is a cultural group with folklore; that we capitalize Leather to distinguish it from tanned cow-skin is an example of this. In this class, Lark will use her academic expertise to shine a light on examples of folklore specific to the Leather community and lead a discussion on these and related topics when viewed through the perspective of a folklorist. What items of folklore are involved in being Leather? What folklore is most important to us? Are there rituals that one has to do before they can “really” be part of the Leather community? Are there phrases that mean something unique in the Leather community, the correct use of which marks the speaker as Leather? What does wearing a leather vest symbolize? Seeing what we do in Leather through the lens of folklore connects us to our Leather past, encourages us to examine the values behind our traditions, can renew practices that have become routine, and reminds us that there are many ways to live Leather.

Keywords

folklore, history, ritual, customs, language, stories

Ordeals - Crafting Sacred Trauma

Wintersong Tashlin

Crafting Sacred Trauma

Ordeal, Catharsis, Initiation. There is a growing shift towards doing structured rituals designed to affect the internal or spiritual tidal shifts that can sometimes happen as a byproduct, intended or otherwise, of the kind of play that we do in the kink/BDSM world. This class will help you learn to deliberately craft these types of rituals, for yourself or for others. We will discuss when and why this kind of ritual is valuable, how to determine the best techniques and processes to achieve the desired goal, and how to fit the work into a broader personal, spiritual, or religious context. Although the instructors are coming from a pagan perspective, this class is open and appropriate for people of all faiths and those with none.

Keywords

transformation, spirituality, ordeal, transformation, kink, trauma

Ouch Needles Hurt

The Carnie

If causing pain is what you’re looking for, this class is for you. After understanding the basics of safe needle practices, we go over how and where to inflict pain with needles using some techniques like Stacking, Zippers, Twisting, Face/Neck, Genitals, and many more for your sadist minds (42 other painful ideas). Part lecture and hands-on demonstration.

Keywords

Needle, Pain, Blood

Pain Processing for Nerds

Robin Beatch (Redrobin)

In this lecture and demo-based workshop we will be exploring the basic physiological responses to intense sensations and how your emotional state affects those responses. Whether you're a top or a bottom, this information can be incredibly useful in understanding the human body and mind connection. When you use this information to your advantage, you will be exceedingly more successful in achieving your goals in a scene. Are you aiming for subspace? Cathartic release? Fear and restlessness? No matter your goal, understanding how the body processes strong sensations is a great place to start!

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Keywords

Pain processing, endorphins, science

Plural Dating 201

Dr. Liz Powell

Do you find yourself anxious when your sweetie is playing with someone else? Have you hurt a partner’s feelings with how you came back to them after a date with another?

Take your multiamorous dating skills to the next level!

So many people in non-monogamous relationships feel like dating can be rough. When a partner is off with someone else, folks feel fear, anxiety, jealousy, and insecurity. They try everything they can think of to get past this, but still struggle.

On the other side, some folks come back from a date high and happy, to find their energy is hard for their sweetie to receive. They inadvertently step on toes and create conflict when they wanted instead to share their excitement or disappointment.

In Plural Dating 201, we’ll cover the skills needed to move more smoothly through your dating life. We'll look at how to take care of yourself while your partner is on a date with someone else, and we'll examine how to decompress after a date, to return kindly to your sweetie.

Keywords

Polyamory, non-monogamy, dating

Pony Play 101 - Putting the Horse Before the Cart

Pony Tromper, Lark

Pony Tromper and Lark provide a beginner's look at Pony Play in this introductory class; no experience necessary! We discuss a variety of topics, from finding your inner pony (or handler) to sources of tack which won't break the bank, to finding a partner to explore this dynamic with, to the types of scenes common in the Pony Play community. Tromper & Lark have experiences to share with the equine-curious, so bring your questions and get ready to horse around!

Keywords

ponyplay, D/s, petplay, leather

Precipice: Edge Play

Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano

Violent assault, humiliation, terror, interrogation, forced sex…playing on the brink can be vastly rewarding, but also psychologically and physically dangerous (which is of course part of the appeal). Stefanos & Shay will demonstrate & discuss types of edge play scenes, finding the right “field of fucks” (aka negotiation) for this type of play, and the how & why of taking yourself (and your partner/s) to the limit…and then pulling them (and yourself) back. This class includes numerous demos, including emotional edge play, sexual consensual non-consent, gunplay, use of “trigger words,” realistic and personal portrayal of domestic abuse, and rough body play, as well as participatory discussion about “soft limits” and risk awareness in the context of edge play. Throughout, Stefanos & Shay emphasize using edge play for catharsis and empowerment. This class is not for beginners and contains content that many participants find triggering (often in unexpected ways).

Keywords

edge play, sexual consensual non-consent, rape play, gun play, use of “trigger words,” CNC, rough body play, blood

Put Your Practice Where Your Mouth Is: The Art of Effective Communication

Ferris Oxide

In the kink community, we talk a lot about consent and negotiation. However, consent violations occur frequently because we talk very little about effective communication. In this class, we will discuss effective communication strategies to employ before, during, and after negotiation as a way to facilitate consensual encounters and effective negotiation.
This class will offer answers to the questions of consent. What is consent, what constitutes a consent violation, and what differentiates it from a consent accident? The class will also cover what questions to ask during negotiation, how to communicate effectively about planning for conflict, and how to be accountable during communication.

Keywords

Communication, Consent, Negotation

Racism Defined: Allies thru Z

Mx. Pucks A'Plenty

In this class, we will talk about racism and how it colors the world in which we all live. We will discuss; what racism is and isn't, microaggressions, systematic oppression, what privilege really means, why Black Lives Matter, intersectionality in kink/BDSM/leather, and how to be a good ally and an even better accomplice.

Keywords

Racism, Spaces, Dungeons, Community

Relationships on Purpose

Dr. Liz Powell

Are you tired of falling into relationships that don’t fit you? Do you feel like you’re not getting your needs met?

Learn how to stop feeling frustrated and start getting what you want and need from your relationships!

Most people “end up” in their relationships, but what if we consciously designed them instead? Instead of worrying that no one will ever “get you,” or that you’re doomed to failed relationships, you’ll set yourself up with a “user manual” that will help any partner show up for you in the way you want and need!

In this workshop, we’ll think about the factors that make for a strong relationship that’s the right fit for you. You’ll explore what commitment means to you and what commitments you’re making to your partners and yourself. In addition, you’ll get time to explore what your wants and needs look like in relationships by looking at factors like time, how you feel and show love, and the nitty-gritty of how relationships unfold.

Keywords

Dating, relationships, non-monogamy

Safety & How to Engage in Play Piercing

The Carnie

Play piercing is done for the purpose of enjoyment (or pain) rather than permanent body decoration. It can be a form of self-expression, ritual, self-discovery, sexual pleasure, and entertainment. The endorphin high from play piercing can create a variety of sensations. This class will demonstrate safe practices and techniques for those interested in exploring this kind of play. You will also be coached on the connections that can be established between the piercer and pierced when they experience this together.

Keywords

Needles, Blood

Second Hand Happy: Practical Compersion Skills

Dr. Liz Powell

Are you worried that you’re too jealous for this non-monogamy thing? Have you heard all about compersion but worry it just won’t happen for you?

Uncover your inner compersionist!

Lots of people find compersion (happiness for someone else’s happiness) challenging when they move into non-monogamy. They feel great about their own dates, and they know that their excitement about a new person doesn’t change how they feel about an existing relationship. Yet, they find themselves struggling to feel as good about their partners’ other dates.

While some people do have more of a tendency towards compersion, it isn’t an inherent trait – it’s a skill. The same way we can practice gratitude to help bring more of it into our lives, we can practice compersion and make those muscles stronger!

Together, we’ll explore what compersion looks and feels like, identify times you’ve felt compersion (you have!), and build a tool kit to help you practice more compersion in your current connections.

Keywords

Polyamory, non-monogamy, dating

Sensual Whipping in the Dungeon

Jonn Ireland

This workshop is for beginning to experienced Whipsters. Bring your whips. I will also have a few whips for you to borrow. A whip scene is much more than just hitting someone with the tip of your whip a few times. You will learn to read the bottom and be able to adjust your scene accordingly. Learn several different ways to throw snake and signal whips that will become the basis of your scenes. Learn to use a bullwhip for wraps and hard strikes. Whip techniques can vary from brushing the skin to using cracks off and then on the skin, each one producing different effects on the bottom and used in different places as the scene progresses. Learn normal and unusual areas to strike the body and how to use different positions in a scene when you do not have a rack or a cross. Attendees will also learn ways to practice for accuracy. Whip strikes may vary from gentle stroking to painful, red, welted stripes and cuts, depending on the intent and skill of the Top and interest and limits of the bottom.

Keywords

impact, whips

Squirting: Let's Get Wet!

Robin Beatch (Redrobin)

Is it all just a myth? Absolutely not! Is it fake when shown in porn? Well... sometimes. Can I/my partner do it? Totally! In this lecture and live demo, we'll discuss and demonstrate anatomy, how ejaculation works, and how you can do it too - with some tips and tricks!

Keywords

Squirting, sex

Strangulation & Asphyxiation: A Study in Breath Control

River Dark

Many people play with choking and/or suffocation. Yet so often when we put anything over someone’s face that restricts the flow of air or anything tight around someone’s neck, the cry “Breath Play” rings out as though it was murder most foul or a universal safe word. Instead of lumping them together in a dark back room with, “Dangerous Edge Play. Do Not Enter!” written in blood on the door, let’s separate these different strands and look at them in the light of day. What about them are unsafe, and why? Is there anything safe about them, and why? Most importantly, what are some fun things we can do with them?!

Keywords

Breath play, Edge play, Strangulation, Asphyxiation

The Pony/Handler Dynamic

Pony Tromper, Lark

Pony Players enjoy a wide variety of dynamics, some of which seem unconventional to those in the larger D/s community. What is a Pony Handler? How does the role differ from that of a Pony Trainer? What about different types of Ponies? In this workshop, Tromper and Lark will use their relationship to inform a broader look at Pony/Pet-play roles and how they map to roles found in a typical D/s relationship. They will discuss the D/s roles in a Pony/Handler relationship and how some expectations might be reversed.

Keywords

Pony play, D/s

The Sadistic Art of 8 Limbs

Master WrathDaddy

The Sadistic Art of Eight Limbs, Rough Body Play from a Muay Thai Perspective - There are many different styles of rough body play, largely dependent upon the original martial arts style of the person doing it. Recent years have seen MMA, Krav Maga, and Jujitsu enter the realm of kink. Here I will teach you how to use your fists, elbows, knees, and feet/shins to cause intimate and intense pain and leave the most lovely bruises.

Keywords

Rough-body play

This Sucks, Why am I Turned on?! Suffering Fetish

Carter Brûlée

Have you ever felt like “masochist” as a label just didn’t quite resonate with you, despite playing with pain? Or you’ve been aroused by doing that one thing you hate for a partner and just couldn’t find the words for why. Then maybe your fetish is for suffering. Suffering can include more than just pain play, maybe you hate being forced to stand still, using self-degrading language, or folding laundry. In this workshop, Carter discusses various types of suffering, negotiation, aftercare, and exploring your boundaries with this type of play. Let’s talk about navigating through what can be painful, nasty, bitter, miserable, and ultimately, incredibly hot.

Keywords

suffering, CNC, masochism

Transcending Shame

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Do you experience guilt, shame, and feelings of inferiority around your kinks, sexuality/sexual expression, gender identity, and/or race? Do you constantly compare yourself to others? Do you see yourself as defective? This interactive workshop tackles the topic of personal shame and the damage that it causes when left unchecked. It also gives participants the opportunity to understand the meaning of shame, learn the difference between guilt and shame, gain awareness of shaming phrases and behaviors, and recognize when someone is shaming them.

Keywords

shame, guilt, racism, mental illness, self-hatred, self-esteem, autism, othering, kinks, kinky, sexual expression, gender expression

Tying & Flying: Beginning Self-Suspension (2 hours)

Shay Tiziano, Stefanos Tiziano

Self-suspension can be used for dynamic movement, exploring intense sensation, performance, learning partnered bondage, ritual, and more. After a discussion of general principles and safety considerations specific to self-suspension, participants will practice support line skills and be guided through a basic face-up self-suspension, with a possible transition to an inversion and introduction to some in-air variations.

Keywords

Bondage, self tying, self suspension

Urethral Insertion Play

Wintersong Tashlin

Learn how to fuck in a whole new hole! Join us as we look at how to stimulate yourself or someone else through the use of urethral sounds and other insertables. We’ll cover how to choose the right kind of toy, properly prepare, play safe and fun (with just a little meanness thrown in for good measure), and clean up afterward.

Keywords

sounds, genitals, penises, vulvas, technique, demonstration

We Do Not Live Single-Issue Lives

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is very much fascinated by the concept of "Intersectionality," which is why she became interested in teaching this class. Created by Kimberlé Crenshaw, who is an American lawyer and civil rights advocate, "Intersectionality" is what happens when, "Multiple forms of discrimination (such as racism, sexism, and classism) combine, overlap, or intersect, ESPECIALLY IN THE EXPERIENCES OF MARGINALIZED INDIVIDUALS OR GROUPS." (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) **A Black trans woman is probably the best example of a marginalized person possessing multiple forms of discrimination and oppression that intersect.**

In "We Do Not Live Single Issue Lives," you'll start your journey of learning just how many social identities you may have, as well as how they intersect with each other. (SPOILER ALERT: The number of your overlapping identities is probably way more than you think!)

Keywords

intersectionality, autism, mental illness, kinks, gender, racism, tokenism, sexism, othering, trans, bisexual, poly, nonmonogamy, marginalized, privilege

You Need A Spanking: A Deep Dive Into Domestic Discipline

Wiley Wolfe

Corporal punishment and spankings in schools and homes were the standard for disciplining children and wives for generations. These practices remain common in some cultures to this day. For many, role-playing these behavior modification tactics are highly erotic - a fetishized exploration of discipline.

But what makes domestic discipline in kink so hot?? What might we be engaging with politically and/or socially when we play with these themes? What implements are commonly used, and how do we properly wield them? Is there psychological safety to consider? What are the most common role-play scenarios and spanking positions, and how do we create an immersive and effective role-play environment? Prepare for a deep dive into all this and more!

Keywords

spanking, domestic discipline, role play, impact