KinkFest 2020 Presenter Application
The Portland Leather Alliance is actively seeking educators for KinkFest 2020, the Pacific Northwest's premier BDSM event. With over 50 slots to fill, we need your application! Click here for more information.
Unfortunately things happen and as such all workshops are subject to change without advance notice.
Beneath the Leather: Massage for Boot Blacks and Service Oriented Folk
It all started at the after-party at a conference. I had just traded the beautiful custom Wescos I had worn all weekend for my favorite Chaco sandals. A boot black approached me sadly stating that I wasn’t wearing my boots anymore and they had been looking forward to taking care of them. Someone piped up, “Give her a foot massage with Hubbard’s” and now here we are with this class teaching you techniques and tricks that will elevate your leather care.
Boot Blacking, Leather care, massage, bodywork
Beyond Mommy Dearest
What's the difference between a Top, a Mistress, and a Mommy? Do Daddies really have all the fun? Mommy scenes and Mommy relationships are rich territory where we can explore powerful emotions and needs like reliance, trust, nurturing, and healing. Tristan will talk about the pleasures of Mommydom and how they relate to other kinds of D/s and S/M play and relationships. We'll delve into the taboos and complexities of age and incest play; creating a power dynamic with boys, girls, and other submissives; and other aspects of kinky motherhood. How do our own experiences of mothering (including the fantasies and wounds we carry with us) inform this highly-charged role? Find out how to develop and define your Mommy self and the rewards and challenges that come with the icon of all icons we call Mother.
Mommy, dominance, submission, D/s, roleplay, age play, familial play, leather archetypes, fantasy, roles, femme, femme domme
Bound for the Floor: Rope Bottoming 101
Flowing floor work helps to maintain intent in rope, keeping both partners focused on each other. This class is structured for and with rope bottoms. In this class, basic body mechanics, safety and terminology will be covered to assist you to create the type of experience you are wanting as you are being tied on the floor. Conroy and ShesANatural will demo a single column tie, a double column tie and a one rope flow exercise. We ask attendees that wish to participate to please bring rope. This class will not be teaching pattern ties to the tops. This class is designed to give information to the bottoms that are being tied for safety and sustainability.
Rope, bondage, rope bottoming
Consent in BDSM and Power Dynamics
Consent is more complex than just "Yes" or "No". There is a lot going on when you want to make sure the person you're with wants to be there, doing a thing.
Consent, risks, BDSM, D/s
D/s protocol: Navigating to Deep Waters
This workshop will focus on how to utilize D/s protocol to go deeper in your play and relationships. We’ll cover building a strong foundation, setting shared expectations, and establishing meaningful communication. We’ll match potential difficulties with possible solutions, and then focus on strategies for going even further. Subjects presented will be considered from both the Dominant and submissive perspective.
Leland will walk you through her very favorite type of play: Daddy/girl. We'll cover classic D/g activities, spectrums of the dynamic, how D/s can fit with D/g, and dark age play. Please note this workshop focuses more on leather and service girls, than littles. We will take into account both the Daddy and the girl perspective.
D/s, Leather, service, D/g
Digging Deep: Pain Processing
This workshop will explore the body and mind response to pain, and what you can do to process it before, during and after a scene. How do you identify your pain preferences? How do you find new ways to process the myriad sensations of pain and pleasure during a scene? In this workshop we will focus on learning to process pain in ways that can enrich the scene experience for both the top and the bottom. Come ready to discuss and explore.
Discussion, D/s, Top/bottom dynamics, pain
Double Handed, Matched Pair, Single Tails in the Dungeon
This workshop takes your skills to a new level and is for whipsters with at least a little whip experience. Learn to use two whips, one in each hand. You will learn and practice various techniques including 9 and 3 brushing and cross cracking forehand and back hand, as well as Florentine and others. We will have lots of practice in this workshop and by the end you will be well on your way. If you have a matched pair of whips, bring them. However, several pair of matched whips will be available for you to borrow in class. In double handed whip scenes you are frequently hitting the bottom twice at the same time. Intensity and accuracy are things we will discuss.
Whips, impact play, single tails
Dungeon Etiquette & Orientation
Whether this is your first kink event or you’re a seasoned regular, a refresher on dungeon etiquette is always helpful. Knowing the rules of engagement makes it easier to relax and have a good time - and no one wants to be the recipient of side-eye or wonder if they’ve put their foot in their mouth.
BDSM etiquette, safety, hygiene, orientation (If this is your first big BDSM event please attend this workshop)
Evolution of TK at Ichinawa: The Last Ten Years
Akuaku has been learning and teaching at Ichinawa (Hajime Kinoko lessons) for more than ten years. In this workshop he will demonstrate and discuss the variation and evolution of the chest harness (TK) during that span. We will discuss each point, the reasons and the theory behind it.
Rope, history, TK, Takate Kote, Takate Gote, box-tie.
Exploring Your Risk Profile
Whether you’re brand new or you’ve been in for over three decades, you’ve probably heard the phrase “risk profile,” or maybe the related term “informed consent,” but what is a risk profile? And what is your risk profile? What information are we referring to when we say informed consent? How does one get or give it? In this workshop, we’ll explore what exactly a risk profile is and how to tell what is within or well outside of yours. We’ll talk about how to find the information you need to both get and give informed consent, how to vet information, and what happens when you realize you didn’t know as much as you originally thought. Risk profiles are highly individual, and often evolve over time. This workshop focuses on finding and using the right tools to actively participate in deciding what risks you take.
Consent, risk, risk profile, self-awareness, informed consent, exploration
Finding, Vetting and Hiring the Right Dominant for YOU
Oftentimes, we hear of dominants and masters placing a potential submissive or slave “under consideration:” this indicating that there is a trial period where the dominant type person gauges suitability and decides whether or not the s-type person is “worthy” of the honor of being owned. But what about the other way around? Is it not also the responsibility of the submissive or slave to ascertain “worthiness,” and ensure they are giving themselves over to a suitable partner, and ready to take this important step?
D/s, M/s, Power Exchange
Fondling, Fingering and Fisting
Don't be afraid of the word 'fisting' - it doesn't have to be scary!
Fingering, fisting, hands, sex, anal, vaginal, human anatomy
For The Love of Boots
Get ready for more than your basic boot and leather care class. Are you ready to dive into the details of advanced bootblacking? There is more to boot care than a simple shine and grease….
Boots, Bootblacking, Leather care
From Floor to Flying: Beginning Self-Suspension
You don't need a top to fly! Self-suspension can be used for meditation, athletic dynamic movement, exploring bondage masochism, a tool for learning as a rigger, and more. After a discussion of general principles and safety considerations specific to self-suspension, Shay will lead the class through self-tying a basic chest harness and hip harness. Participants with adequate rope experience will then be guided through a basic face-up self suspension, with a possible transition to an inversion.
Rope, suspension, bondage, self-suspension
High Protocol: Teatime, Verbal Restrictions & Positions
Do you have a desire to learn the art of High Protocol Tea preparation and service? Would you like to be trained to serve or receive this type of formal service? Does the idea of rigid verbal and physical restrictions while enjoying tea excite you? Join us for a hands on High Protocol Tea demonstration with an American Femdom and her British sissy maid husband. Attendees will be instructed in the history, art, terminology and kinky theory of serving or being served a three course High Protocol Tea and take learned skills to be put into practice. Attendees will also have an opportunity to enjoy unlimited tea, as well as a gift to get you started on your High Protocol Tea journey.
Teatime High Protocol
Hoods and Head Trips
Hoods, head harnesses, gags, posture collars, sensory deprivation: all good things that go well together. Learn how to safely and enjoyably apply restraints to the head and neck, and what kinds of scenes benefit from a good head trip. Demonstrations will include rubber, leather, inflatable and spandex hoods; metal, rubber, and leather gags, mouth restraints and head harnesses. We will discuss safe immobilization of the head and neck; various sensory deprivation techniques will also be covered.
Bondage, hoods, gags, sensory deprivation, blindfolds, posture collars, immobilization, head trip
Hot, Slick, and Smooth - Intro to Vintage Straight Razors
Join Raven Darknights for a scintillating talk on straight edge and vintage razors. You’ll learn what to look for to purchase, about their care and maintenance, the importance of great soap, get ideas and guidance for setting the scene, as well as shaving techniques for any body. Change your razor, change your life and create a new morning ritual.
Razors, vintage, sensuality
How to Talk Dirty and Dominantly
Say "Fuck no!" to silent sex and quiet kink. The tone of voice and choice of words you use during intimacy and play can be as powerful as the moves and implements you use. But knowing what to say and how to say it during sex or within a scene is often the most challenging part of the experience. Silence is boring...but saying the wrong thing is embarrassing at best. With his degree in Speech Communication and his life experience as a pro orator, actor, Dominant, and porn director, Danarama will describe, demonstrate, and lead a discussion of dozens of effective techniques for using voice and words and scenarios to not only fill the void of silence, but also make your scenes more dynamic, intimidating, cathartic, and sexy than ever before.
Dirty talk, verbal, aural
Imagery & Design with Needles
Want to use the body as a canvas not just a pin cushion? Learn how to create your own patterns and how to execute those patterns on the body. Focus is on maintaining consistency and keeping a safe, clean environment for longer sessions.
This class involves needles, piercing, and blood.
Immobilization Bondage Tips & Tricks
Using only rope and leather, you will learn how to have seemingly supernatural control over your partner's body with these easy-to-learn tricks to immobilize limbs, head and torso. Take your serious bondage game up a notch and show your bottom just how vulnerable they can be! We'll also discuss types of gear that are best for immobilizing your sub.
Immobilization, bondage, heavy bondage, rope, leather, dominance, restraints, dungeon furniture
In the Air Tonight: Rope Bottoming 301
This workshop is focused for and with rope bottoms. The information shared will cover weight distribution, adjustment and management so you can stay in control of your own body even when you are tied up. We will share tricks and shortcuts on relaxing and engaging muscles and breathing to improve sustainability in static suspensions. Conroy and ShesANatural will demo a static suspension, with ShesANatural sharing how she is feeling throughout and answering question from attendees during the suspension.
Rope, bondage, rope bottoming, rope suspension
Intro to Catheters & Sounding
This workshop will demonstrate safe practices and techniques for those interested in exploring the use of sounding devices and catheters. It will cover on both male and female insertions of implements into the urethral opening.
Medical play, catheters, sounding, urethra
Introduction to Anal Sex
Learn how to introduce your partner to anal sex, the nice & easy way! Porn doesn't give the complete picture. Discover the preparation, lubrication, communication, and stimulation techniques that maximize success, helping to ensure that you both enjoy the first experience and want to keep doing it again and again. Danarama and his demo model will discuss and demonstrate a variety of proven prep and practical skills, including the best positions for trying first-time anal penetration, plus training, priming and timing and other butts practices.
Anal, sex. This class involves graphic explanations and sexual demos.
It's a Trap: Playful Scenes & Non-Bondage Predicaments
This isn’t always serious work we do! Predicaments are all about getting between the proverbial “rock and hard place” (and laughing as your partner is flummoxed by their situation); playful BDSM is about giggling together in scene, with bottom and top both participating creating the "torment."
Predicaments, role play, kinky games
"Leather" can be a hard topic to understand. What is it? How do people 'become' part of the Leather community? What are some of the key differences and similarities between BDSM and Leather? In this class we'll look at what draws kinksters to the Leather lifestyle. BusDriver and his girl Pink will share some basic history and principles to give some background and insight into this lifestyle choice.
Leather, Leather Culture, history, scene
LT Fox's Begleithund
A basic obedience and handling course for pets and handlers of all species, experiences, and dynamics. While this course is based off canine handling techniques it is absolutely not just for dogs. Regardless of what you're drawn to, come explore the menagerie. Only the first 30-45 minutes are lecture. This class is highly interactive and attendees should come ready to be in pet or handler space. Bring your gear, small treats, and wear something comfortable. Commands are taught in German.
Pet Play, Role Play
Male Genitorture with Cock & Ball Bondage
Male genitorture begins with good cock and ball bondage. Learn how to apply all those wacky cock and ball harnesses you see online, learn some effective rope techniques, and bone up on tips and tricks using metal cock devices, chastities, princess wands, electric cock boards and more! Find out how torturing the outside and inside of a penis can be great fun for all involved.
Cock, balls, torture, CBB, CBT, leather, metal, rope, chastity, electric, urethral, sounds
Meet Me Halfway: Rope Bottoming 201
By knowing how the body moves naturally, it makes it easier to keep the rope flowing and grow connection during a scene. We will be sharing tricks, shortcuts and experiences on sustaining some ties through body awareness, positioning and breathing for partial suspensions. Conroy and ShesANatural will demo a partial suspension, with ShesANatural sharing how she is feeling throughout and answering questions from attendees. This class is designed to give information to the bottoms who are being tied for safety and sustainability.
Rope, bondage, rope bottoming, partial suspension
Middling: Three-way Play & Proxy Topping
Incorporating a third into your BDSM can add an exciting element of novelty to a scene, especially by delegating a Middle to execute your commands, techniques, and punishments. Demanding the best skills of trust, management, and communication, working with (or as) a Middle is great for training, role play, a natural transition for switches, and an awesome mindfuck. It's also a great way for Doms to bring a new Top into a BDSM relationship while maintaining supervision and without sacrificing the Dominant role. It's also an awesome prelude or addition to threesome sex.
Switching, middling, D/s,
MonoPoly: Passing Go
Much like the actual game of Monopoly, this style of dating can destroy friendships and promising relationships before they've even started. If you or your partner is wanting to leave the monormative culture they've been tied to, this class will highlight the challenges and offer tips for those in Mono/poly relationships to arm themselves for success.
Polyamory, mono-poly, poly, monogamy
Negotiation & Communication for Hotter Play and Better Sex
Negotiation isn’t something you rush through to get to “the good stuff.” Talking is part of the fun, part of foreplay, and part of sex and play itself — if you do it right. In this class we’ll talk about ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, styles of communication, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We’ll talk about ways to start the negotiation conversation and ways to incorporate communication into dirty talk.
Negotiation, communication, consent, all-levels
New to the Scene, Drawn to the Edge
When you first enter the kink community, you may hear a lot of messages about what activities are appropriate to begin your explorations. People may steer you toward spanking, flogging, rope bondage, or sensation play and away from kinks which are perceived as more extreme, such as rape play, mindfucks, blood play, and more. What if edgeplay is precisely what draws you to kink, though? This discussion-focused workshop will address devising risk mitigation strategies, deciding on your individual acceptable risk profile, spotting red flags, and even research methods. Gain the tools to do what you desire!
Discussion of CNC, rape play, blood, edge play, and other content as brought up by participants
Oral Sex 101: Learn to Lick
Love downstairs action? Are you a fan of the oral but want to increase your skill set? Or are you afraid you suck at sucking? This is the workshop for you, no matter what your experience level is!
Oral sex, safer sex
Rope can be a sadist’s best friend. From quick and easy painful ties, to slow and deliberate torture, this workshop will cover some basic ties for inflicting pain on your partner, and some of the safety risks associated with this style of tying. We'll discuss different kinds of pain, from skin to muscle to bone, and will also discuss pain processing, from a bottoming perspective, and how to stay safe while suffering. This class is lecture, demo, and hands-on tying.
Rope, Sadism, Masochism
Partnering with Power: Kink and D/s Open Relationships
People who practice BDSM, especially those who are in Dominant/submissive or dominant/service relationships, face unique challenges in both designing their open relationships and making them work. Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers practical advice and strategies for dealing with specific issues related to being open and kinky. We’ll cover: common open relationship styles within BDSM communities and how they can work best; how to negotiate for what you need within a D/s dynamic; the role of power, control, and authority in negotiation; and practical conflict resolution skills. In the interactive facilitated portion of this workshop, participants will be encouraged to share their stories, issues, and solutions.
Polyamory, non-monogamy, solo polyamory, dominance, submission, D/s, M/s, open relationships, mono/poly, relationships, power dynamics, roles
Pegging for Pleasure: The Ins and Outs of Strap-On Play
Strap-on play can be either intense or pleasurable depending on how you want to play. Whether you are a pegging virgin or really love dishing it out and just want to pick up a few more pointers to improve your game, this is the workshop for you!
Strap on play, pegging, sex, anal sex
Penis to Prostate: A Guide to Internal and External Pleasure
No one in our society has it easy when it comes to sex. Harmful ideas about the way sex and bodies should work can build shame and embarrassment. For people socialized as male and/or masculine the emphasis on performance and “doing” can create stress and anxiety. In this class we aim to slow things down, and take some time to explore all of the pleasure potential of these often misconstrued areas of the body. You will learn anatomy along with techniques for touch and pleasure and ways of communicating that take the pressure off. We will discuss ways to create intimacy that don’t require an erection along with tools to relax, slow down, and enjoy a range of sensations without being goal oriented or rushing to a finish line.
Penis, prostate, anal, sex
Pitfalls of Partials
We’ll talk about partial suspensions with rope, and some of the unexpected challenges that come with this territory. Expect to learn more about upline management, body manipulation, safety concerns, and bottoming skills for when things are “tied up”.
Rope, partial suspension, uplines,
Riding the Edge - Advanced Knifeplay
This class is designed for the knife player who has the basics well in hand and is looking to increase the level of difficulty and risk at which they choose to play. Safety and health issues will kept first and foremost. Various techniques will be discussed and demonstrated, including but not limited to the following: Blind play, Face/neck/throat play, Point play, and Insertion (both handle and blade). Other topics discussed will include uses of razors and cutting.
Knife, Blood, Sex, Insertion/Penetration
Rope Basics for First Timers
This workshop is a simplified and more play-oriented version of the Ichinawa beginners lessons (Hajime Kinoko lessons.) After discussing consent and basic security, Akuaku will demonstrate a simple flat knot and chain knot and how to use one or two ropes to make a chest harness and other play positions.
Rope, beginner, rope 101
Often when people get started with rope, the first thing they focus on learning are knots and patterns. While these are good fundamentals to get you started, these skills often don’t translate into making good scenes or good performances. This workshop will cover some of the basics of great rope handling and will focus on two primary parts: the biomechanics of rope handling and the techniques that usually equate to better connection. This workshop is lecture, demo, and hands-on tying.
Rope, hands-on, partner tying, flow, connection, technique.
Rough Body Play: High and Low Energy
This demonstration based workshop is for those who love to use their body, get down to basics and connect with their partner directly through physical contact. You can expect to go over how and where to slap, punch, and kick someone, where and how to apply pressure points, how to use your knees and elbows, and more! We'll cover topics such as injuries, chronic pain, disability, pregnancy, etc. as well as how to possibly work with/around those issues. Bottoms are welcome, but I hold no responsibility if they use what they learn on you!
Rough body play, grappling, human anatomy, disability, chronic pain, impact
Selfcare & Aftercare: Who Needs ‘Em?
The intensity of SM play often results in emotional vulnerability for the top and the bottom. Often, the period of “Aftercare” post-scene is intended to provide closure for all parties involved. Though much discussion and lip service is often paid to the importance of aftercare, how many of us ensure our emotional needs will be met after the toys are safely packed away? Who among us makes sure that we negotiate aftercare when planning that hot scene? Who among us has walked away with a “less than fulfilled feeling” after a scene, and later realized out aftercare needs weren’t met? How often is the top or dominant’s need for aftercare overlooked? And for goodness sake, what do you do when there is no chocolate to be found??
Aftercare, selfcare, drop, physiological, psychological and spiritual
Sensual Whipping in the Dungeon
This workshop is for beginning to experienced Whipsters. It is a hands on workshop so bring your whips. There will be some whips to borrow, if needed. Learn to read the bottom and be able to adjust your scene accordingly. Learn several different ways to throw snake and signal whips that will become the basis of your scenes and also learn to use a bullwhip for wraps and hard strikes. Whip strikes can vary from brushing the skin to cracks off and then on the skin, each one producing different effects on the bottom and being used in different ways as the scene goes from beginning to middle to end. Learn normal and unusual areas to strike the body, different positions to use in a scene when you don't have a rack or cross, techniques for limited spaces, what's different when using bondage and whips and how to practice for accuracy. Whip strikes may vary from gentle stroking and progress into painful red welted stripes and cuts depending on the intent of the Top and limits of the bottom.
Panther & Embers lead a discussion on the changes, challenges and compensating for getting older in BDSM/Kink. Areas covered include physical changes/disabilities, mental/emotional changes, medical issues and safety concerns, and compensatory mechanisms for dealing with the above.
Sit Down, Shut Up, & Listen To Mistress: FemDom For Beginners
Femdommery is an art. Like many artists you cannot paint the picture you are visualizing without the right tools or setting. In this workshop we will explore what I believe are the basic foundational “tools” needed to step into your place as a Femdom artist. Let me share the secrets, tricks, tips, and must-haves of my decade long craft.
Femdom FLR Mistress/submissive
Skin Deep: Cutting for Play
There is nothing quite like the sensation of a cutting – the fear, as you see and feel a blade against your skin, the sharp, immediate pain as the cut is made, the slow tingle and wet feeling of blood dripping down your skin…
Blood, cutting, advanced medical play
Slipping Into Hypnosis: Easy Ways to Play with Trance
Whatever your kink, hypnosis is a versatile addition - you can make fantasies come true, reward obedience, do BDSM without toys, or simply connect more deeply with your partner. In this interactive workshop, taught from a switch’s perspective, we’ll discuss negotiation and risks, practice ways to improvise hypnotic inductions & suggestions that fit our scene plans, and learn to recognize the signs of trance in ourselves and others. Whether you’ve tried hypnosis before or not, you’ll leave with the tools for playful explorations.
Hypnosis, psychological play
Squirting: Let's Get Wet!
Is it just a myth? Absolutely not! Is it fake when shown in porn? Well.. sometimes. Can I/my partner do it? Totally! With this class and live demo, we'll discuss and demonstrate anatomy, how ejaculation works, and how you can do it too - with some tips and tricks!
Sex, squirting, ejaculation, human anatomy
Successful Scene Composition – Tips, tricks, and transitions
It’s your scene. You’re in charge. So, how do you handle those uncomfortable moments where you’re not certain what to do next, but don’t want your bottom to see you sweat? How does preflighting scene composition help you to find inspiration for fantastic play? What makes for effective scene progression and ramping? Which toys or playstyles flow best from one to another? This class is aimed at giving Tops solid play theory, and delivering practical tools for creating smooth and successful scenes that will both make you look good, and have your bottoms crawling back for more.
Taboo Play and Working Through Extremes
If you have ever had a scene that lured you with the promise of edgy intensity, but wondered if you could handle the situation before, during or afterward, this discussion is for you! We will explore the reasons some people enjoy play that is VERY edgy psychologically, emotionally and physically, and how you can go about making that fantasy a reality. Inherent in this discussion is the level of responsibility of both/all partners, how to manage risk, and how you can support your partner in the aftermath. Edgy play can be hot, and we will look at ways to avoid some common pitfalls, as well as how to recover with grace and honor when things go off of the planned path.
Taboo, edge play, race, incest, etc.
Techniques for Sensual Rope
This is a floorwork-based workshop, which will include rope handling to facilitate communication and connection centered around sensuality, sexuality, and pleasure. We’ll learn how to speed up when tying so there's more time to play, and where and when to slow down to enjoy the reactions of your partner.
Rope, communication, connection, rope handling, sex
The Intrigue of Flesh Hook Pulls and Suspensions
What are hook suspensions and pulls all about? The reasons extend from wanting a pure adrenaline or endorphin rush, to conquering ones fears, to trying to reach a new level of spiritual consciousness. Discover the personal expansion and energy exchange that can be obtained through suspensions and pulls. This workshop overviews how to prepare yourself and what to expect from flying by flesh hooks or pulling. Workshop with a hook pull demonstration.
This class involves needles, blood, suspension
The Introvert’s Guide To Kink
Introvert and kinkster Rain DeGrey takes you through the steps to conquer your fears and face social settings so you can have the experiences you crave. Whether you are a nervous newbie or a more experienced kinkster still facing anxiety, there will be something for every level of introvert.
The World of Latex - Clothing, Crafting and Vacbeds.
Latex is a unique material allowing kinksters to create a wide variety of items which enrich our daily sensations and experiences.
Latex, fashion design, vacbed, rubber, kinky crafting
These Boots are Made for Walkin’
To be under a heel is a wonderful form of submission. To stand over another feeling their fragile body under your feet is sublime. Come learn the Anatomy of Trampling, where we discover the mechanics, traditions, science and joy of stepping (or being stepped on) all over your friends and partners.
Trampling, Impact, Boot-play
Thwack - The Science and Mechanics of Impact Play
This workshop is designed to teach the participant to understand the basic science and mechanics behind various types of impact play. This includes safety zones, preferred impact zones, kinetic energy, energy transfer, rate of transfer, flex, and some of the mathematical and physical equations that apply to impact play. Various methods and tools/toys of impact play will be demonstrated. Upon completion of this class, participants should be able to create and understand why they choose and/or prefer various toys when they do S&M impact play. This will allow the bottom to make more informed choices when negotiating and allow the Top to create a better, more satisfying scene both for themselves and for their partners.
What to do when you are accused of a Consent Violation
Consent is complicated and tricky. Sometimes things go wrong. When you're the person accused of violating someone's consent it can be a scary, emotional, and extremely difficult place to be in. It's not something we're taught how to deal with.
Consent, Difficult Conversations
What to do when your Consent is Violated
Having your Consent violated hurts. When it happens, it can be hard to know what to do. It can be hard to even think clearly.
Consent, Difficult Conversations
Who We Are, Beyond What We Do
Sometimes the things we crave leave tops feeling like monsters, or bottoms worrying they’re allowing themselves to be victims. Other times we lose faith that others might understand and actively desire the things that speak to us. The reality is there’s nothing wrong with our needs, depraved or otherwise, and there are other people just as twisted, searching for the same things. Join us for a guided discussion delving into the issues we face accepting our kink as a part our sexual identity, not just a hobby, while avoiding self-judgement and burnout.
Self acceptance, identity, sexual identity, personal journey, lifestyle, discussion